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Why might advice make someone angry? Put yourself in the anxious man’s place and imagine how he might feel.

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Lesson notes · ≈ JLPT N2 · Intermediate 2

人にしてみたら・人にしてみればhito ni shite mitara / hito ni shite mireba

from someone’s perspective

Use 「人にしてみたら」 or 「人にしてみれば」 to consider how someone might feel in their situation.

How it works

  1. Why might advice make someone angry? Put yourself in the anxious man’s place and imagine how he might feel.

    Why might advice make someone angry? Put yourself in the anxious man’s place and imagine how he might feel.

  2. Why do the words “Don’t overdo it” help? From the unwell person’s perspective, they can bring reassurance.

    Why do the words “Don’t overdo it” help? From the unwell person’s perspective, they can bring reassurance.

  3. Use a noun referring to a person before the pattern, such as “he” or “someone who feels unwell”, to make clear whose perspective it is.

    Use a noun referring to a person before the pattern, such as “he” or “someone who feels unwell”, to make clear whose perspective it is.

  4. Both forms mean taking the other person’s perspective and imagining their feelings. They are interchangeable here.

    Both forms mean taking the other person’s perspective and imagining their feelings. They are interchangeable here.

  5. In the examples, the person hearing the words feels reassured or calmer. The second half describes the change that person experiences.

    In the examples, the person hearing the words feels reassured or calmer. The second half describes the change that person experiences.

Example sentences

  • 体調たいちょうtaichouがga悪いわるいwarui人ひとhitoにniしshiてteみたら、「みたら、mitara、無理むりmuriしないshinaiで」でdeとtoいうiu一言ひとことhitokotoだけdakeでdeもmo安心あんしんanshinできます。dekimasu。

    For someone who is not feeling well, just the words "don't overdo it" can make them feel reassured.

  • 不安ふあんfuanをo感じかんじkanjiてteいるiru人ひとhitoにniしshiてteみれmireば、「ば、ba、大丈夫だだいじょうぶだdaijoubuda

In a conversation

  • A
    田中さんたなかさんにアドバイスあどばいすをしたのですが、怒らせおこらせてしまったようです。

    A: I gave Tanaka some advice, but I seem to have made him angry.

  • B
    不安ふあんを感じかんじている彼かれにしてみれば、責められせめられているように感じたようにかんじたのかもしれません。

    B: For him who is feeling anxious, he might have felt like he was being blamed.

  • A
    なるほど、相手あいての気持ちきもちにもっと寄りより添うそう必要ひつようがありましたね。

    A: I see. I needed to be more empathetic to the other person's feelings.

Check yourself

  1. Level 1 · Recognise

    Which sentence is correct?

  2. Level 1 · Recognise

    Listen and choose the meaning

  3. Level 2 · Build

    Put the words in order

    For someone who is feeling down, positive words can sometimes feel like pressure.

  4. Level 3 · Use

    What goes in the blank?

    体調が悪い人____、「無理しないで」という一言だけでも安心できます。

    For someone who feels unwell, even just hearing "don't push yourself" can be reassuring.

More grammar in this theme

  • 〜のことなんですがgently introduce a topic
  • 〜させていただけませんかpolitely ask permission
  • 〜ものですからgently explain a reason
  • 〜の代わりに・〜に代わってinstead of; in place of
  • 〜おかげでthanks to; good result
  • 〜おかげだcredit a good result
  • 〜くせにreproachful contradiction
  • 〜せいでblame for a bad result
  • 〜に決まっているstrong certainty; bound to
  • 人を〜にさせるtrigger someone’s feelings
  • 〜ことはないno need to
  • 〜のことになると・〜のこととなるとwhen it comes to
  • 人にしたら・人にすればfrom someone’s perspective
  • 人にしてみたら・人にしてみればfrom someone’s perspective
  • 〜たびにevery time
  • 〜ば・〜ならばif; on the condition that
  • 〜たら・〜ためにif; in order to
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よ」よ
yo
とto
言われるいわれるiwareru
だけdake
でde
少しすこしsukoshi
落ちおちochi
着けます。つけます。tsukemasu。

For someone who is feeling anxious, just being told "it's okay" can help them calm down a bit.